To Disclose Or Not To Disclose

CN – Laws , Transphobia, Disclosure, mentioning rape.

In the UK news, yet again we are being told that if we do not disclose out trans status that we would be breaking the law, by having sex on the grounds of deception, or even in some cases rape.

Now do you know what this law is. Its bullshit. Yet again transgender and non binary people are thrown under the fucking bus by the law.
Being transgender is not a fucking deception. We are not trying to trick you into believing in something we are not. We are living something that we are.
Do you know what this is saying? Its telling people that if they have had corrective surgery, and that they are living their real life, that they still by law have to say what their previous life and body was like. That’s like someone being forced to tell you by law how many partners they have had, or whether they have had any surgery in their whole life. Sorry, its like saying that because you got a face lift or breast augmentation, you are deceiving your partner. How? HOW!!
Now I’ve said a million times on my blog that I will never be stealth, and I will always be happy to disclose my transition to partners. However this is not the right or even the safe option for many. When trans women are getting murdered for disclosure, trans people are getting raped, assaulted and refused entry in supposed safe spaces, you can see how being open about your identity can be dangerous.

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Do you know who is getting harmed by this law? Trans people
“Oh but I thought they were a woman, and then I found out they were trans, so that makes them a man” FUCK OFF. It makes them a woman. Just because you are born with parts you were not supposed to, doesn’t make you any less then what you are. Have you had something corrected or removed? Are you intending to tell your next partner that you have? Would you consider it sex by deception then?
“Oh but they can’t have kids, and I feel like I have been lied to”. How many cis people are infertile? Would you say that the sex you had with them was deceptive? Nope? Thought not.
“But if you don’t disclose that you have HIV, you can get done for the same thing, what makes this any different” Well for starters HIV and AIDS if not treated CAN KILL. You are physically putting someone at risk if you are not looking after yourself or your partners sexual health. Just like any other sexually transmitted illness or virus. Being transgender is neither of these things.

Transgender people are not trying to deceive you. They are living their lives as normally as they can. They do not want to live in fear. Sex with a trans person is not deceptive sex. If it was you will need to consider these to be criminal acts too.
*Lying about how much you have in the bank
* Lying about penis size. Look saying its 10 inchs when you are actually sporting 5 is deceptive.
*Lying about how many partners you have slept with
*In fact lying full stop to get someone into bed.

If you think that its OK to think that trans people not disclosing is a problem and that not disclosing anything else is OK, you are part of the problem.