To Disclose Or Not To Disclose

CN – Laws , Transphobia, Disclosure, mentioning rape.

Weighing Up My Options

I was sparked on by Kai to make a post about being stealth or being open by his recent posts ( kai’s recent post) and how I felt it would affect me.
Well for starters I had always told myself that it would be so much easier to be stealth. Then I realised I “passed” terribly and thought fuck it, I might as well be who I really am, visibly queer.

Now there have been reasons for me choosing to be out as a trans masculine person, for starters on in a privileged position to be out. I’m white, i volunteer in safe spaces ,have friends that are queer and an online community that’s the fucking greatest. I am very grateful for having such a wonderful network.
Secondly, I’m not exactly binary. Whilst I strongly identify as male and use male pronouns, I appreciate my androgynous side and feel like I shouldn’t have to hide it. I am not female, and whilst I can do “feminine”  things, and look “femme” it is something I am not.
Thirdly, I am out because I have to be. I once made the mistake of trusting people and I’m fully aware that some of my nudes I have posted online are easily accessible. If I was to live “stealth” and considering my presence online, I know there would be people willing to out me at a heart beat. We all make mistakes, and that was certainly one of them. I don’t mind, I just know that they will probably get posted around at some point.

I don’t think I will ever be stealth, but I don’t know what the future brings. Maybe there won’t be a need to pass in the future, and that you could be who you want gender wise without any issues. Till then I will keep being visibly queer.