F – Friends

I am lucky that I have several good friends in my life. I have both my wonderful partners who are just amazing. As well as them, I have gained many friends over the past few years.
Whilst I lost several friends when I came out as transgender, I was lucky to gain so many more, thanks to joining FTMB and going out to queer spaces and groups. I met both my partners in queer spaces also. I have gained so much more than just friendship within people in the community and its made me become a better person.
I have also gained lots of friends online, thanks to admining a few groups and pages online. What’s great about people online is that you are friends with people because you share common interests and if you don’t like someone, you don’t have to see them again.
This post is probably going to be one of my shortest ones, but there isn’t much I can cover with just friends.

Tomorrow is G – Gods and Gravestones. Please feel free to follow me during this A-Z challenge, all of the words were picked by people online, and I had to make posts about them.
Want to talk about what friends are to you? Feel free to post in the comments

Ten Things I’m Thankful For – 15

So this past two week a fair few things have happened, so let’s get down to business.

The start of April brought us the A – Z writing challenge, so I would like to thank the creators for this wonderful event. I’ve come across so many different styles of blogging and its amazing.
I’m finally up seeing my family. Woop woop. So I’m thankful for my family being there for me and me being able to spend time away from Brighton.
Some arsehole decided to not only rip off one of my old posts, make a transphobic piss take from it, they linked my post in their shitty thing. Plus side, free advertising. My blog blew up with views. So I thanked him for doing what he did.

It was also transgender day of visibility. Which meant that for one day, non queers apparently go on about how they love transgender people and think its all ok to not even bother the rest of the 365 days of the year. I thank everyone who is honestly respectful to the trans/non binary community and we need more allies that give a shit as opposed to people who give us lip service.
Kai took me to the sea life centre on Good Friday and it was really cool. I thank the sea life centre for giving us the backstage tour and being fucking awesome. Also I thank Kai for just being amazing.

I haven’t had as much time as I have wanted to with Steph recently and I hate that. I am thankful that they are so understanding that we are both really busy at the moment.
I am now the chair of FTMB, which is both terrifying and rewarding at the sane time. I thank everyone who has been around and just been amazing.
I got my hair done at a barbers / hair salon for the first time in years. I was called He the whole time, so that’s made me really happy.
I also took a really fun picture and got people no “Name my album” which ended up being really funny. So I’m thankful for humour.

I think that’s it! Its been a pretty busy couple of weeks, I’m surprised that I managed to squeeze this post in if I’m honest.

I shall see you all in two weeks time

B – Best

Best. The best is always looking at the good things in your life and that’s what my post today is about. The best bits.
Firstly meeting both my wonderful partners are in there with my greatest things that have happened to me. I am thankful that I have two great human beings in my life that I am able to share my life with that understand being poly (both my partners are also poly) and are understanding with both my transition and my mental health.
My best friends should get a mention whilst I am talking about the best parts of my life. Daisy and Aidy have been around for so much of my life and continue to be huge rocks around a sea of bullshit. I am sad that I can’t see either of them as much as I would love to, but I am grateful for the time we do have together.
So what about the best things that have happened in my life? I could probably list of a million things that have happened that have been amazing, but I’m going to list of my top 3.

1) The best thing by far I ever did was to come out and start gender reassignment treatment. I am finally at the back end of treatment for now and awaiting chest surgery. Everything that I lost, I gained back twice as much. I gained friendships, relationships, volunteering places. Shit happened that I never thought would. I started to be finally happy in myself.
There is still a shit ton of accurate educating needed to be done about being transgender but I think we are very slowly making improvements.

2) Joining FTMB. They have been a huge fucking rock to me over the past few years. They have not only put up with my bullshit, they have trained me and made me not only come out of my shell as a human being but also to be a much better person. They have taught me to pick my battles and to let go of the small shit that’s been in my life. They inspired me to do the one last “Fuck you” to my estranged father and to stand up for the marginalized queer people in our community who need to be represented.

3) I am my mothers child. The one stability in my life. The beautiful human being that is my mother. She has been the person who has kept me going in my darkest days. She has been my supporter, my inspiration to be better and my care giver. She has given me my best days in my life. She is the one who tells me to give people hell and to not take shit from anyone. She is my drive to keep going when days are darkest. If it wasn’t for her, I don’t think I would be around. She is the best and nothing would ever change that.

Thank you for reading this. Please feel free to tell me what you think the best points have been in your life. Next time we are on the letter C.