So long and thanks for all the fish

This is probably going to be the last post on here for a very long time.

As you are aware, I haven’t posted since April and it has been for very good reason. I had complications after my surgery and it became very exhausting to exist both physically and emotionally. I made a fuck ton of mistakes, I fucked up a chunk of my life and ended up with a huge infection that hasn’t even been spotted by doctors for a good 6 weeks or so.

Then a lot of trans peoples sites started to get doxxed – mainly by TERFs and I found out that my twitter was listed on a thing that TERFs use – so I did what was best and shut down for a very long time. Kids, don’t get involved in protests and politics unless you prepare yourself for the worst case.

I started panicking and loosing my love of doing this. I hated looking at what I had created and I hated myself. This became a reminder of the one thing I thought I was over but it wasn’t. It was a stark reminder of my rage, my frustration, and I no longer felt good about it.

I will be keeping this up – because one day I would like to come back to this. I also know that lots of people use this as a source of information and I appreciate that.

In other news, Kai, myself and a good friend of ours (who has guest posted several times here) are starting a new website. We have a name and once the final bits are sorted I will be posting a link to it, and I hope as many of you as possible come and join us for this new adventure. It is something we are looking forward to starting and we finally have zero constraints on what we can and cannot write anymore which is a bonus.

From the bottom of my heart I want to thank every one for their love and support over the what, four years this ran?! And who knows. I might come back to this.

Much love and support to all of you

Tyler Charles Austen

PS – For all those haters who are so happy that this is over – the new project is 200% more content with some of our best posts thrown in, with a support network that’s amazing, backing from a group with 7500 members and a fuck ton of friends willing to help – so no, this isn’t the end of me.. Yet.

The Demonization Of Detransition

Before I start this post. This is not an information piece to be used as leverage against trans people. This is not a blog that agrees with the views of TERFs and it certainly isn’t to push any right wing agenda. This post is to actually bring forth a serious conversation that is scary to talk about but as a trans person it has been something that has come up in my personal life. It’s surprising that I have to actually say that at the beginning of a post, but the moment you mention the word detransition there is a huge panic by the trans community and glee from our oppressors.

Statistically there are so few real cases of people who detransition that there isn’t any direct path way for those who do decide to. You may see a small handful of posts online and a friend might consider it but there actually isn’t this huge collection of trans people out there that do regret transitioning.

But why do people decide to detransition?

There are many factors as to why this is possible. Gender being fluid, feeling worse than what they felt like originally, no money, no support, feeling like they have no ability to “pass” as the gender they are, medical complications… In all honesty there are many MANY reasons why a person would feel like they need to detransition. Very rarely it has anything to do with regret and even rarer has it been because someone has not known what they are doing and have been rushed into it by doctors. This is often though what the media and what the people who oppose trans rights would have you believe. That people are being forced to medically transition without the knowledge and understanding and regretting it later. Trust me, the average time it takes for someone to transition is 10 years. This is the basic pathway and not including extra steps and other pathways you can choose. This all starts off with about a year waiting for your very first gender clinic appointment, seeing counsellors, doctors and therapists before hormones and surgery are even considered. People who do transition are 99% fully aware of what is involved and there is no coercion or forced gender change, so we can put all those ideas to bed now.

Why is it not talked about though?

Because honestly we are scared of this conversation. We are scared that it makes us look bad. For fuck sake I needed to put a disclaimer at the beginning of this because when someone feels they need to detransition, the right wing shit bags and TERFs rub their hands together like they are winning a fight. No you are not winning a fight, it’s just some people do not have the strength to continue and that’s fucking OK.

I’ve been honest before and said that if I had known now what I do about my physical health, I may have partially detransitioned. I wouldn’t have put myself in a situation where a medical menopause affected me that badly. I am slowly getting through it, and what happened to me was so fucking rare it hasn’t even been a thing discussed till recently, but I may have not gone on T. I had until recently not wanted to talk about it because so many people are scared of the idea of people wanting to detransition.

I think it’s time to open a dialogue, a safe one. One that’s only done with trans people and work out how we can protect those who think this needs to be an option for them

F – Feminist’s

This rant isn’t about all feminists. It’s about one type of feminist. TERFS. Or as they are called, trans exclusionary radical feminists. 
Firstly, their obsession with trans women’s genitals is beyond a fucking joke. As feminists we do not disrespect women and lower ourselves as to suggest that a womans worth is in her genitals. Get the fuck away from that bullshit mentality. You have been demanding that women are not judged by their worth by their genitals. This doesn’t mean just fucking cis women.. It means all women. 

Secondly, which ever one of you cunts that started the whole trans people ALWAYS regret their decision to transition, needs to fucking stop. Do you know the actual statistics of people detransioning. It’s lower than 1%. In fact the most common issues of “regret” have been from trans peeps that have  been forced to have unnessisary operations or hormones for them, often pressured by gender clinics. This is based on the assumption that non binary genders do not exist. 

Thirdly. TRANS MEN ARE NOT LESBIANS. Not all trans men are attracted to women, as we all know. Sexuality and gender are totally different fucking things. Secondly, trans men fucking exist. They are not “defecting to the other side” or “fighting against feminism” they are just being men.  

I would go on and on about individual cases of TERF bullshit, but you can google it really easily and I don’t want to see really triggering stuff for me. 

So in conclusion, feminism is for all, not just for the cis

I’m Not Mad, I’m Just Disappointed

Today, was my first online fight with a TERF (Trans exclusionary radical feminist) today. I suppose that probably means I have officially pissed off every extremist group by my existence.
However usually I can shrug of the negativity that comes with online bullshit, but with this I haven’t been able to this easily.
I suppose its because I’m actually disappointed in the people, and not even mad.
I’m disappointed that a hate group, which in theory they are, uses feminism as a launching pad to spread hate. True feminism is about equality, about safety and most importantly freedom of expression, regardless of gender and find ways to find it, without violence in any form being shown.
I’m disappointed that TERFs are taking something that people are fighting for, and pissing it up the walls.
I’m disappointed that feminism teaches us that everyone should be treated as equal regardless of gender or sexuality, and I have been told today that I’m denying being a lesbian. I’m not even a lesbian, I’m bisexual for starters, but that’s not even the reason to be mad.
Feminism has taught me that body parts are not the be all and end all, and shouldn’t be used to discriminate someone. Something that TERFs are doing all to much.

I suppose my point is this. PLEASE STOP ASSOCIATING HATE SPEECH WITH THE ONE THING WE ARE NOT.

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