CN – This post contains discussion on racism, racist language, racist behaviour and mentions violent treatment towards people of colour.
Saturday marks the international day of hope and remembrance. So this weekend I’m filling this space up to list ten statistics about hate crimes and the hope and remembrance vigil , because I am thankful that I do not suffer like other people do out there
1) The first H&R vigil was on the 30th October 2009, it was launched in London.
2) It was launched after the death of Ian Baynham after he was beaten and homophobically abused in Trafalgar square
3) Police recorded 52,528 hate crimes in 2014-15, up from 44,471 in 2013-14
4)with that statistic, more than 80% were racially motivated.
5) Home Office records say the “likely factors” of the increase included improved recording of crime, a greater awareness of hate crime and an improved willingness of victims to come forward. Though with that being said there are 1000s of people not wanting to go to the police because of fears of how they are treated or whether its even recorded. Researchers believe that only around 43 per cent of offences are reported to police.
6) Incidents against disabled people have risen up by 12.5%
7) The majority of hate crime victims are male, and are aged between 20 and 49. Meanwhile, most offenders are male and aged between 20 and 29, around 45 per cent of who are white and British.
8) Hate crimes targeting the LGBT community have risen to as many as 100 cases in a month, with a monthly increase of 21.5 % since March 2014.
9) Hate crime aimed at transgender people has risen from 58 to 108 cases since 2014. This is a recorded yearly rate from the Metropolitan Police, but other research indicates that it’s much higher, but transgender people have said that they find it hard to either speak to police or even when crimes are recorded, they are often not taken seriously or not even logged as a hate crime.
10) This month a hate crime app was launched so people can record what happen without having to talk to the police, by using a third party system. It has a link to victim support so the victim can receive support.
Thank you to Gov.org, the independent and the BBC for helping me find the statistics.
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Content warning – Transphobic comments, racism, sexual remarks, people being dicks on the dating scene
I’m not ashamed to admit this, but I have used online dating apps and websites. Not now as I have got older, and realised I prefer human interaction, but every now and again I will look at them.
I stopped using them because they are depressing. Nothing screams that you are worthless then dating sites and apps.
You see I’m stuck with an ever lasting loop in my head. If I tell people from the start that I’m trans, I will get abuse or worse be seen as a fetish and nothing more. If I don’t, and then start talking to people, its a question of either lying to them or saying that I’m trans later on, and be accused of “lying”.
There is one app of course that goes further. Grindr. Did you know that the term “FTM” is a banned word, and it will get removed from your profile, in fact that anything that relates you to being a trans masculine / trans man will be removed quickly. However if you are a trans woman / trans feminine person , or as some users say “chick with a dick” , this is totally allowed. The fact is. Its a men only dating site, and Grindr will not allow men to post up profiles saying that they are trans men.
Secondly, the abuse you will get from that site. Ranging from “Your a woman, not a man” to “Kill yourself no one will ever love a dyke who wants to be a man” . Grindr is fully aware that this goes on, and there are countless pages dedicated to how trans men are treated on the app. They will refuse to change their settings though.
They are probably the worst, but at least they own their transphobic bullshit. There are other sites that do it blatantly and try and deny it.
As well as transphobic comments, what I hate is the racism that often comes with dating apps. I once saw “no curry, no rice” as their preference, whilst talking about what race they wanted. Also, its acceptable to write “sorry no blacks, only whites” and get away with it. YOU WOULDNT DO IT IN REAL LIFE, WHY ON THE INTERNET. I know there are many debates going on about dating racism and how it needs to be stopped, and it first needs to start with App makers refusing racist language.
Its also acceptable that you can say almost anything to a person. Like starting a conversation like “I’ve never fucked a tranny before” , and with language like that, you won’t ever. The internet has brought on this idea that you can be as disrespectful as humanly possible , but it’s OK, because you don’t actually see them. NO! ITS NOT OK.
I think that we should go back to dating face to face and stop using apps that promote a behaviour you wouldn’t want to see in real life. Or at least create apps with a better reporting and filter system
Tell me what you think of the dating scene, any online dating horror stories you want to share? Any positive interaction? Come say hi
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