I’ve had a few mentors in my life, but a couple of them really stand out. Rad primarily.
She taught me to be professional and to stand up against peoples bullshit at the same time. She would tell me when I would fuck up and she was the one who discovered I was dyslexic after I handed over some of my course work to her.
Without her drive and passion, I wouldn’t have got far in life and I wouldn’t have learned that I am actually a human being who can get shit done.
By now most people know what “Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual” means in this day and age, but as language and sexuality has evolved, more and more terms are coming out and some people can feel a little confused. So I decided that today I would write about some of the other terms you might not have heard of.
1) Pansexual – This term is quite old now and people have been using it more and more, yet some are unaware of what this means as a term. No it doesnt mean that you are attracted to kitchen applicances, it means that you have an attraction to someone regardless of gender.
2) Polysexual – this term is pretty similar to bisexual. Its where people find that they are attracted to some genders but not all of them.
3) Asexual – another one that’s quite well known, but it means very little to no sexual attraction.
4) Androsexual – For people who are primarily attracted to masculinity, so that would be anyone who’s gender presentation was masculine, not specifically just to men.
5) Demisexual – someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction unless they develop a connection with a person.
6) Gynesexual – someone who’s primarily attracted to feminity. Just like with androsexual, this doesn’t exclusively mean one gender, but instead attraction to feminine presenting people.
7) Skoliosexual – Being primarily attracted to queer, trans, non binary or gender non conforming people
This is certainly not a finished list. If people would like more to be added, please write them in the description. I hope that this list has helped some people out there.
Hello everyone.
If you didn’t know, I’m writing a book about “Queer Dating and Sexual Advice” . I started writing it in April and it will hopefully be available by the end of the year, body permitting. When it gets close to completion, a rough release date will be announced.
What the book has done though has sparked me to start a study and analysis of dating habits of people who are over 18.
I did a pilot survey of 100 people recently using survey monkey and 100 random people who got to the survey first. There was a wide variety of genders, sexualities and ages. Here are some of the answers to some of the questions given to the participants.
Please feel free to share and use this information. It was just a basic pilot to the detailed survey that will be coming out.
What makes you feel alive?
Air and breathing, is a general rule makes me feel alive.
Other things though are as followed.
√ Getting over a couple of hundred views a day on my blog
√ When I hear Corey Taylor sing. If you don’t know him/ only know him from slipknot, YouTube Corey Taylor Wicked Game. Your ears will thank me.
√ Getting perfect sleep.
√ Rollercoaster rides
At the end of this month , it’s officially one year of having this blog. In a year I have pissed off more people then I ever thought possible. Written more stuff then I ever have and dedicated myself to a single project for the longest period of time I know. Also I have also got my 100th follower.
This year has been a rollercoaster of a ride for myself, my family and loved ones, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for sticking by me. Thank you family for having to deal with the fact I talk about sex and genitals and Thank you to Kai and Steph for both being such wonderful partners. I am blessed to have you I’ve had peers come up to me and tell me how they read this. I’m still blown away that I’ve been thanked for even saying stuff so openly.
The truth has been however that I started this blog because medication was failing me, and I needed a way to get out all my pent up feelings before I attempted suicide. I never expected it to blow up the way it did l, thanks to a certain post I posted in August.
I’m also reaching people further then I ever imagined and thanks to the huge growth of our Facebook page “Homos, Heteros and a whole lot more”, I’m reaching 1000s of people on great days.
Whilst I am here, I would like to take this moment to thank P0j0 for having more patience for me then most people could imagine. Outside the hard external shell is a fucking caring human being. He’s dealt with me from the very start, even has put up with my bullshit when I’ve been mentally unstable (or doped up on painkillers, I start arguing over civil freedoms with an American). He is such a genuine guy and will be there for you regardless how often you fuck up. If he gives you advice, you fucking take it kids. This man has took meunder his wing and taught me more than I thought I would learn. Keep being you man.
I would like to thank the WordPress app, because I wouldn’t be here without you.
Thanks to the people I’ve been angry about. Whether its big organizations or the guy who gave me dick pics, you have been a huge inspiration.
Thanks to you dirty little bastards who are googling porn and reaching my blog, just because of a few posts talking about the porn industry. I love you guys Thank you to all the internet friends I have spoken to and made throughout the past year. Thank you Shannon for the 3am chats, the blog rants and being the person I screamed to before I wrote blog posts I would regret. Thank you Olivia for being a Corgi loving babe. Both you ladies have a special place in my heart. Thank you Freddie also, you have been one of the greatest friends I could ever hope for.
Thank you to all the people who have guest posted on here, and thank you to the people who refused my dating article because it wasn’t heterosexual. It wouldn’t have pushed me harder to work on this.
And finally, thank you to the average reader, the people who come back, and the first time here. Without you, I honestly think I would have given this up. I’ve been viewed in countries I didn’t think would. I’ve been shared on Facebook and I’ve had people tweeting me. Its been a rollercoaster, and I’ve loved it.
Thank you
Tyler
I’ve been away for two weeks, and I would like to explain why.
My phone died!!
If you have read any of my posts, you would know that my sole tool for blogging and everything else in my life has been my phone. My new one is great, its a bit big, but I will manage. It has great storage and looks quite nice. So I will be back to blogging asap.
There has been another reason as to why I have been away, and that’s because I’m pretty tied both physically and mentally with what I can and cannot say any more. And when shit goes down, this has been my best way of venting my frustration without it being jumbled up words. I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. And I’ve got to think long and hard about where I am going with it all
That being said, there should be a new layout and better ideas next year. I will be doing designated days for different things, the Friday guest slots will always be open. And recently I have been asked to do a dating article for a small page. I’m still deciding about the final outcome so watch this space.
Keep your chin up and don’t let the bastards drag you down
I have been asked many times “Why Tyler do you write” and this evening if you have been on twitter you would have noticed that lots of other people have answered the same question.
You see when I first started I thought it would end up being some sort of journal that I could post on when ever and no one would notice it. It would be a way to vent out my frustration without pissing off people. THEN AUGUST HAPPENED!
If you do not know what happened because you never saw it, or this is your first time here, I did a MASSIVE post about how bad I thought Brighton pride is. What I didn’t expect was that people would read it. Then I didn’t expect that it would get to Brighton Pride. It did. I have received some back lash from it, and 99% of them are from the people the post is aimed at. Honestly when I first wrote it, it was just going to be another post that was going to be locked away.
Writing became a fucking drug then. WordPress had caught me in hook line and sinker and several months on I’m writing three post a week minimum and have started advertising the shit out of my content.
It turned out that people actually wanted to start hearing from a dyslexic potty mouthed non-binary trans person. People wanted to know how I felt about issues and events that went on in the community. People started messaging me thanking me for the stuff that I was posting. PEOPLE WERE THANKING ME!!! How weird is that? I’m just posting how I feel about things, and my own experiences.
I then realised that there was other reasons why I am now writing. Reasons why I’m up at twenty past two in the morning writing posts and responding to tweets in the late hours of the night. I’m doing it now because I NEED TO WRITE.
I started writing to make myself feel better. It was a way to get out what I couldn’t without a therapist. I started writing to get out the demons and thoughts that plagued me in the early hours of the morning.
Why I write now is because there are 100s of people who are going through the same thing that I am. I write so they can read these thoughts, these ideas. I write now so I can become a better writer in the future and help so many more people. I write now because there are people who cannot write or express their feelings. I write now because its improving my mental health and I know that’s a good thing. I write now, because what else would I do at 3 am.
Posted from WordPress for Android
If you have been following my blog, or know me, you would know that I’m Transgender. I have made no attempt to hide it either in my public life or on my blog. If you have just happened to have stumbled on my blog for the first time. Hiiiii, welcome to my blog. You have probably found me in the darker recesses of the internet, lurking in the corner. Please be aware that this post (as most of my other posts) contains some language viewers might find upsetting.
Continue Reading
So whilst I was away checking out legend (check out the review here) I got a notification and it was a comment in my about section
Now, for someone who originally started out blogging because it was a coping mechanism for my feelings at the time, it has progresses into something pretty fucking wonderful in my life.
Click here for the nomination post
I haven’t expected that this blog was going to go very far if I’m honest, and I’m still progressing with where I actually want to go with this. But from the bottom of my heart thank you for the recognition of this.
I’m not going to lie, doing this blog, whilst dealing with some pretty fucked up challenges at the moment, hasn’t exactly been a bed of roses. Its been hard, and there have been times where I have almost wanted to give up on this. I’m honestly glad that I’m a stubborn bitch sometimes, because if I had, well I wouldn’t be here right now to write this.
I suppose getting this has given me the kick up the arse that I needed and encouraged me to actually write more. It’s told me that its OK to be honest about my writing and that I should try and get myself out there, because there really is space for a transgender dyslexic tourettes sufferer with bipolar and high functioning autism.
Dear god that was a fucking mouthful.
I suppose what I’m trying to say is, again, thank you so much to everyone who reads my posts, my followers (all 50 of you, and the people who don’t follow but stalk me, you know who you are 😉 ) and the people who inspire me to carry on with this project
Tyler
Xx
PS – Here is my face, since I haven’t posted a picture of my face recently
Posted from WordPress for Android
Its come to that point in the week where I talk about the things I am grateful for. So here it is
1 – Steph and Kai – I have been a miserable fucker the past couple of weeks and they have had to put up with that. They both put up with so much with me and I’m always appreciating them being around.
2 – National express fun fares – because going to Aberdeen would be so much more expensive.
3- Painkillers – recently I have been in quite a substantial amount of pain, and I have been struggling to deal with life. They haven’t been working as well as they could do, but it helps a little bit.
4 – Insight – Recently things have been quite tough, and someone I considered to be a friend, ended up being a huge cunt. I had previously said that I wish them well in all there endeavors, and I didn’t want to stoop low and cause drama. But honestly now, I hope people actually see them for what they are really are.
5 – Family – By the time I have written my next ten things I’m thankful for , I will be in Aberdeen seeing my wonderful family. I’m really fucking excited to see them, I haven’t seen them since June. So you can expect I will be posting about my time up there 🙂
6 – FTMB committee – Again, I cannot stress enough how wonderful Charlie and Ed are. I have never met people just as crazy and cat obsessed as I am. I’m also grateful that they understand what I’m going through at the moment and get that its been stressing me out.
7 – The Internet – I’m glad that there are sites like this, where I can vent out my frustration on a platform that’s easy to maintain.
8 – Friends – They have been amazing recently, and they totally understand my crazy behaviour. Also they know when I just need to be alone, and when I’m stressed.
9 – Aldi – Following on from my previous post. 49p for a bread mix that tastes AMAZING.
10 – Being able to actually communicate – I know there are people out there who struggle talking to people and I am lucky that I am able to do that, and express when I am feeling low or happy
Tyler Charles Austen 