Is Sex Such A Dirty Word?

Oh god what’s happened this time. I hear everyone huff at me as I put my 5ft 3 small ass on my soap box. 

“Why is sex such a taboo subject around the trans community unless we are seen as a fetish?” 

I have seen my patience become increasingly thinner over the past few months when it comes to sexual health, safer sex and consent. I don’t know about you but I have become quite frustrated about how there is a huge culture around cis people being able to freely discuss sexual liberation, and that trans people are not allowed to get in on that. 

When a trans person starts openly discussing sexuality the room hushes, it becomes a taboo. It’s almost as if we cannot physically have sex unless there is a camera and it’s used solely as the wank material for cis guys. This should not be the case. 

When we close dialog up on safe sex practice on trans people, we are suddenly making their lives in danger. We should be open to talk about what sort of sex we want and how we can protect ourselves with things such as condoms and access to rapid testing of HIV. 

When we give misinformation on places such as saunas, what we are really doing is taking away safe meet up spaces that are monitored and watched so trans people are not attacked, raped and murdered for wanting consensual sex. 

When we refuse to discuss trans sex workers, we are not addressing the issues on how to protect and serve our own community. Sex for pay is still going to happen. It’s a legal professional job for some people, and we should be providing them care and not stigmatizing them. 

Because we don’t talk about safer sex, people do not know where to go for birth control. Yes, trans people can get pregnant to. Unwanted pregnancy can and does happen and there is no way to support people if we are forced to close dialog on sex and abortion. 

STIs are always increasing. Sythilis is on the increase and it’s dangerous. But without us being able to discuss places for testing, more and more people are getting infected. 

I will continue to be angry about this situation because when safer sex discussions get shut down IT PUTS TRANS LIVES IN DANGER. I will continue to try and give as much information as I humanly can because I don’t want people to die because of lack of knowledge or safe spaces. Also trans people who are asexual/aromantic should have the freedom to talk about why they do not want sex/relationships and not get shut down or mocked. It’s about open communication for all. 

Further more trans people who choose to be sexually free shouldn’t be told by other trans people that it shames the community and that cis people will not take us seriously. You should never shame anyone fie their consenting and legal sex. There is no one right way to be trans and there will always be reasons as why some people will not accept us. 

More Porn Please, We’re British

Not content with banning (being made in this country):
• Fisting
•Watersports
•Domination
•Facesitting
•Hard spanking
•Any pornography that involves a woman being in charge.

The conservative fucking bastards are now planning to put in place that ALL porn will not be accessible, unless a credit card, or a code from the government can prove you are over 18.
Though I am fully supportive of stopping children looking at porn. The Tories are going one step further by saying that if sites do NOT conform to this, they will be fined or blocked in the UK. Legal sites, will be blocked, because they DON’T want our information.
Not only is this going to be affecting our porn, it will start to affect other things too. They want SnapChat to be banned, as well as WhatsApp, in fact anything that’s encrypted. Not only is this unsafe practice, this will mean that ANYONE could easily steal your data and use it.

It may be just porn right now but later on it will be other things, and quite frankly I don’t want either my privacy or freedoms to be violated

Free Speech Rambles

For the first time ever I have entirely scrapped a post and decided to re-write the whole thing. Though my intentions for the original post were meant to be positive, looking back at it, it was written so badly, it had to go. Sorry for any one who had read the original post and liked it, looking at it now, I really don’t.

When I first started blogging I honestly had no idea about how my language and posts could come across. I was so built up that everyone should be treated equal and you should be able to say whatever the fuck you wanted but that is not the case. I was blinded by my own privileges to actually see that people DO NOT have free speech. And that you should take away peoples voices if the platform and the content is poisonous.
Now one thing I’m going to still agree with out of all of the whole post. Tumblr still annoys me, and I feel like it brings up a lot of hate and fighting, when it could be used to fight a better purpose. I however am using it a bit more now, and have removed blogs that I feel are poisonous.
I also posted about trigger warnings. And although I feel like “trigger” has been turned into a fucking joke, and it really has by some. I now totally understand why people use content warnings. People can be affected by what you write, how you respond, and everyone is entitled to have an opinion and also have the ability not to read something that might bring them distress. For the people who read my previous post, I am sorry.

I still however feel that anyone can be educated and have their mind changed about opinion. I feel like at some point we have all made mistakes and taken part in things that we shouldn’t have, but we have learned and have been educated. I however feel that it’s not my place to always educate cis people about my transition or always educate about my mental health. Its in the individual to learn by themselves.
Since writing this I have learned that if you have the ability to speak freely, you should do so and in positivity towards minorities that might not have the same privileges as you do. That if you see something unjust, you should call it out and erase the problem. You should also continue to keep using your abilities to speak up, even when oppressive people try and shoot you down.

Finally, I would like to apologise from the bottom of my heart about the original post. I am very sorry about what I wrote and I have learned from the experience.