90% of all of my life’s interaction has been with cisgender people. 90% of the bullshit I have put up with is from cisgender people
Now before I continue, cisgender just means people who are not trans. It just means same in Latin. Two, don’t start with the whole “not all cis” bullshit. You know I don’t mean every fucking cis person in the world and you know it. When a trans person talks about being stuck in a cisnormative society, you listen to them because we are getting pushed through the cracks of society because of medical and social stereotypes and assinptions that come with being trans.
I don’t think I could be in a relationship with anyone that’s cis. It turns out that cis people are really curious about genitals. Like grossly. It’s always the first question that comes up when you start trying to date someone. For context of how bad it is, if you type in queer dating into the archives, you should find a few gems of the bullshit we have to deal with cis people.
Secondly, cis people think that one of our role models is Caitlen Jenner because she’s a huge face in the media. That’s like us saying that Noel Edmonds or Kat Von Dee is every cis persons hero because they are cis. I mean yeah sure they may be some cis peoples hero’s but they are problematic as fuck to many and their transition status (or lack of) shouldn’t be a deciding factor of which role models we should take.
What’s cis peoples fascination of passing for that matter? Why is it that cis people say “I bet you can’t wait till you look like a real girl/boy?” Firstly what the actual shit, can you all stop saying this shit. We are really pissed off with this. Secondly who the fuck set the bar on what the fuck we should look like and how we should appear. Thirdly and this is a huge thing, you are erasing non binary identities in the process of your binary steroypical bullshit. Non binary people exist, non binary and intersex people are fucking real. There is not just male or female identities on this earth. Passing is not a thing for some people and you need to fucking respect that.
Then there is sexual health and medical care. An assumption of that we are “lying” about our gender and our bodies, and you saying that we won’t get the right care, is total bullshit. Treatment and care is often just done by height, weight and body type. The only time when gender may come into question is when it might have something to do with genitals or fertility treatment. And even then your doctor should know what the fuck you have. Also yes we do have sex, please make your services accessible to us please so we can practice safer sex care and access birth control.
Also on this notes, drs and psychiatrists. Not everything that is wrong with us is because of transition. I don’t have a broken arm because I’m trans, I don’t have asthma because I’m trans. Google trans broken arm syndrome and see the misdiagnosis that happens because you are obsessed with our gender.
Finally cis people, stop acting like you need a prize because you have a friend that’s trans. You really do not need to tokenise us please. If you continue to be like this, we may no longer be our friends.
This has been day three of the A-Z challenge and day three of different rants. Tomorrow is D