Oh god what’s happened this time. I hear everyone huff at me as I put my 5ft 3 small ass on my soap box.
“Why is sex such a taboo subject around the trans community unless we are seen as a fetish?”
I have seen my patience become increasingly thinner over the past few months when it comes to sexual health, safer sex and consent. I don’t know about you but I have become quite frustrated about how there is a huge culture around cis people being able to freely discuss sexual liberation, and that trans people are not allowed to get in on that.
When a trans person starts openly discussing sexuality the room hushes, it becomes a taboo. It’s almost as if we cannot physically have sex unless there is a camera and it’s used solely as the wank material for cis guys. This should not be the case.
When we close dialog up on safe sex practice on trans people, we are suddenly making their lives in danger. We should be open to talk about what sort of sex we want and how we can protect ourselves with things such as condoms and access to rapid testing of HIV.
When we give misinformation on places such as saunas, what we are really doing is taking away safe meet up spaces that are monitored and watched so trans people are not attacked, raped and murdered for wanting consensual sex.
When we refuse to discuss trans sex workers, we are not addressing the issues on how to protect and serve our own community. Sex for pay is still going to happen. It’s a legal professional job for some people, and we should be providing them care and not stigmatizing them.
Because we don’t talk about safer sex, people do not know where to go for birth control. Yes, trans people can get pregnant to. Unwanted pregnancy can and does happen and there is no way to support people if we are forced to close dialog on sex and abortion.
STIs are always increasing. Sythilis is on the increase and it’s dangerous. But without us being able to discuss places for testing, more and more people are getting infected.
I will continue to be angry about this situation because when safer sex discussions get shut down IT PUTS TRANS LIVES IN DANGER. I will continue to try and give as much information as I humanly can because I don’t want people to die because of lack of knowledge or safe spaces. Also trans people who are asexual/aromantic should have the freedom to talk about why they do not want sex/relationships and not get shut down or mocked. It’s about open communication for all.
Further more trans people who choose to be sexually free shouldn’t be told by other trans people that it shames the community and that cis people will not take us seriously. You should never shame anyone fie their consenting and legal sex. There is no one right way to be trans and there will always be reasons as why some people will not accept us.