Ten things I’m thankful for – 14

I decided that doing this every couple of weeks was far more easier for me. Purely because its so much easier to think of the things I’m actually thankful for. I don’t mean that in a negative way, I just mean that my brain has been struggling with memory and function as of late.

My best friend took Kai and I out for the day to Poet Lympne which was amazing, we got to see so many animals and it was an amazing day out. She’s going to bitch at me that I have mentioned her, but i am really grateful for the trip, even though she got so angry on the motorway.
I would also like to thank the Clare Project for allowing us to host the Non Binary workshops. The past few weeks have gone so quickly and so much has become of the group. We really appreciate being able to do it.
I finished the queer dating series this week. It has been an amazing four months doing it, and I’ve received so many views on it, so I thank everyone for taking part, reading it and helping me through it all. What becomes of it, I’m still not sure, but it may be a book.

Thank you to “The Witnesses” for allowing me to admin nearly 6000 of you little shits. You yet again truly are wonderful people and amazing to talk to. Every now and again we have themes and Josh (P0j0) finally let us have the drag theme. Kai and I did powerpuff drag so I thank Kai alsobfor being a great fucking sport and dragging up as a trashy buttercup whilst I was a trashy “HiM”.
Also whilst I’m mentioning Josh, again thank you. You are a wonderful person to talk to and considering you got huge stick at first for having me because I am trans, you gave me a fucking chance. You stood up for me when you didn’t, and I owe you literally everything. Giving you our Netflix to use whilst we still have it is the smallest thing I can give you. I will always be thankful for everything you have done, and when ever you are feeling sad, just remember you have helped so many.
Kai and Steph as usual have been utterly wonderful and I am so lucky to have such beautiful partners.
I am also lucky to have amazing friends and family. I’m missing my family pretty badly at the moment but my next post should be when I’m with them

Your Turn Friday – Alfredo

I few months ago, I offered my “Fuck you it’s your turn, Friday” post to a really good friend of mine, and in turn he told me where to stick it, because he didn’t like homework.
A couple of days ago he asked if the offer still stood, and hr delivered this short piece.
Alfredo has been a wonderful friend to me the past couple of years, has a great food page (which is going through possible name change at the moment, reasons why I haven’t posted it). He also admins a gamin page as well as working for P0j0 on the group P0j0vasWitnesses. He is probably one of the funniest and caring individuals I have had the privilege to work with, and has a great fucking smile!

As an introduction to this, I would like to say that grief can affect everyone in different ways. It makes it no less important, what ever it is. But we all have coping mechanisms to deal with loss. Without further wording needed, here is Alfredo’s post.

When are you gonna shave that beard?…..

Is a question I get asked on a regular basis, and was just asked once again this morning. It’s not something I actually came to realized and admit until I felt like explaining to a co-worker,… and it hit me like a ton of bricks…….

I started growing my beard back at the beginning of November, for “Movember” and then something REALLY significant happened in my life… I lost my mom.

Every single time I hear that question it triggers memories of her. I know it seems weird, but I guess the main reason I haven’t shaved is that my beard is my reminder of her and the family that I had. Although we weren’t the Brady Bunch, we were still family and that seems to have unraveled once she passed. I didn’t type this out as a plea for people to stop asking me about shaving my beard, on the contrary…..

I might give a smart-ass response to the question, but ANYONE that knows me will know that it just means I’m in the right state of mind(for me at least)

please don’t be afraid to ask, so that I might remember and thanks