April is coming and it’s another chance to attempt the A-Z challenge. Last year was a total disaster where I had to drop out half way through but the year previously was a success.
This years theme is about “Gender and Disability – looking critically and how to be more intersectional” This sounds like a total mouthful and yes I have made me work my fucking ass off this year but it was something I could actually do for a month that would still keep the ethos of what my blog was for originally.
If you have joined me because of the A-Z master post, hello!!! Some of the stuff might be confusing, some might be uncomfortable also. Whilst I am catering this month to the idea that there will be a lot of people reading this who have not only never encountered a trans person, let alone a disabled one – I will not be toning down language either and I will be pulling apart the cisgender heterosexual able bodied approach to life and how we need to adjust society.
Some posts have already been written in advance – on the 12th I am having major surgery. If I am slow to reply to comments and stuff. That is why.
Any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask. I’m more than happy to talk about certain things on here. Good luck to every writer taking part this month and I look forward to looking at what everyone has done
Best. The best is always looking at the good things in your life and that’s what my post today is about. The best bits.
Firstly meeting both my wonderful partners are in there with my greatest things that have happened to me. I am thankful that I have two great human beings in my life that I am able to share my life with that understand being poly (both my partners are also poly) and are understanding with both my transition and my mental health.
My best friends should get a mention whilst I am talking about the best parts of my life. Daisy and Aidy have been around for so much of my life and continue to be huge rocks around a sea of bullshit. I am sad that I can’t see either of them as much as I would love to, but I am grateful for the time we do have together.
So what about the best things that have happened in my life? I could probably list of a million things that have happened that have been amazing, but I’m going to list of my top 3.
1) The best thing by far I ever did was to come out and start gender reassignment treatment. I am finally at the back end of treatment for now and awaiting chest surgery. Everything that I lost, I gained back twice as much. I gained friendships, relationships, volunteering places. Shit happened that I never thought would. I started to be finally happy in myself.
There is still a shit ton of accurate educating needed to be done about being transgender but I think we are very slowly making improvements.
2) Joining FTMB. They have been a huge fucking rock to me over the past few years. They have not only put up with my bullshit, they have trained me and made me not only come out of my shell as a human being but also to be a much better person. They have taught me to pick my battles and to let go of the small shit that’s been in my life. They inspired me to do the one last “Fuck you” to my estranged father and to stand up for the marginalized queer people in our community who need to be represented.
3) I am my mothers child. The one stability in my life. The beautiful human being that is my mother. She has been the person who has kept me going in my darkest days. She has been my supporter, my inspiration to be better and my care giver. She has given me my best days in my life. She is the one who tells me to give people hell and to not take shit from anyone. She is my drive to keep going when days are darkest. If it wasn’t for her, I don’t think I would be around. She is the best and nothing would ever change that.
Thank you for reading this. Please feel free to tell me what you think the best points have been in your life. Next time we are on the letter C.