Doing a rant a day has been kind of exhausting but also quite freeing as I have a fuck tonne of pent up aggression inside of me. A lot of that pent up bullshit is because everyday I am using some form of emotional labour… For free, often when I don’t want to be doing anything other than curling up in a ball and dying.
Emotional labour is all around us. People are giving time to help other people, such as answer questions that could easily be googled, give time volunteering or just sometimes even listening to friends problems.
I’m not saying emotional labour is a bad thing. My gripe with it is that it’s often u thanked, not paid and very little reward is given from it.
For example I went to a meeting a few weeks back. I’m not going to say what the meeting was or who was there for obvious reasons, but during the meeting myself and a few others were roped into answering questions about being transgender and other questions like that. We weren’t there to do that, it wasn’t our meeting that we were running but because we were the only (visibly) trans people in the room we were bombarded with questions. We were also not thanked for it.
Providing emotional labour is fucking exhausting. There have been times where I have stepped away from my blog because of it. Many times I run off to my mums to get away from doing it for a couple of weeks. It does burn you out after a while and its always good to look after yourself and check in with yourself to make sure you are not burning yourself out.
Doing voluntary work is often a thankless task. However it can feel rewarding. However it can be really fucking shitty too.
Basically, if someone helps you. No matter how big or small. Please thank them for doing it. It’s often a lot of hard work and you often don’t know what other bullshit someone else is dealing with at the time.