I spoke on the main stage on Saturday. I would like to say thank you to everyone who attended, the 4000+ people.Trans pride is my favourite part of Brighton and I feel fucking humble to have had that couple of minutes on stage.
I have put my speech up here, so if anyone wanted to read it, please feel free to read it. Apologies for spelling and punctuation as it was the only draft, and my dyslexia would have kicked in.
When I was asked to talk about my trans intersectionality I was like “cool” I can do this. Then I remembered, I cover a lot of boxes! And I’ve got a fear of public speaking
I’m bisexual, that’s probably covered. I’m a person of faith, I’m poly, I’m on the spectrum, have epilepsy, tourettes and I’m disabled. I think That covers a lot of boxes.
My “disabilities” are pretty hidden. I get tired a lot, I am in more persciption medication that you can probably legally aquire and I black out and sometimes have seizures. If I included all my mental health issues I would be here longer than the few mins I’m allocated.
When I joined FTMB committee (and after a while the trans alliance committee) I was totally honest with them. I’m clinically insane, I have involuntary outbursts at stressful times and physically I will be unable to perform even the basic of tasks. They took me in with open arms, told me that I can do this and inside this bizarly and sometimes broken brain of mine is actually a highly intellectual human being. Both groups were highly supportive when I said that I was a non binary trans masculine person. That I would never be just a average man.
I haven’t exactly had the greatest experience in coming out as non binary trans man, I have experanced some of the most hateful treatment and most of it from binary trans people. I have had to leave services and I have lost friends because they didn’t believe that anything other then the binary was legitimate. I was also told in emails by well known trans people that I should resign from my volunteer roles because of this.
Whilst its had its ups and downs, my transition and disability has not held me back. Last year I was offered the job by Josh to run a page called homos, heteros and a whole lot more with one if my partners, and we are now only a couple of hundred people away from 50,000 followers and have over a million people every week viewing our content. It gave me a platform to write about being queer and disabled and with the thanks to josh, my partners and my family I’m now slowly writing a book.
I spent a lot of my life being stuck in a bubble where I was unable to communicate and because of FTMB and the wonderful people around me I am now able to speak here in front of you.