Thank you for coming back for the second installment of “queer dating”. I originally had nothing planned to start the next segment but sometimes inspiration punches you on the face at the most awkward of moments. Again, this post is going to be NSFW so I advise caution when reading this.
So as I was looking in my stats for the last post, I noticed this gem in my searches.
Now I’m going to say now that as a Simpsons fan this has highly disturbed me, they have been a part of my life for ever and I know them more than some of my own family members.
But this is the world that the internet has taken over and rule 34 is always in play…. ANYTHING CAN BE PORN.
Now I go by the rule of consent. I believe that you can do what ever you want providing that everyone can consent to it. Whether I’m into it or not, I believe that I wouldn’t stop someone’s sexual activity as long as consent was with everyone, that there was no abuse of power happening and that people are safe in themselves. Before anyone starts asks, I will break this down into easy examples.
* children cannot give consent, and that is purely an abuse of power.
*animals cannot give consent. Animals cannot talk
*drunk/intoxicated people are not always consenting! If you are sober and they are drunk, do not use this as a get out clause to have sex.
*pressuring/blackmail/persisting sex or sexual activity, is not consented sex.
Once you have established what is and isn’t consent, you are free to do as you please.
Firstly, you will be your greatest lover. Work out what you like and don’t like. Personally I love kink, role play and I have a massive fetish for knives. Now I know that my kinks, are not everyone’s kinks. Just because one person loves nothing more than to be tied up and arse fucked till they can take no more, doesn’t mean YOU have to like it. Do not police anyone’s kinks unless they are causing direct harm to others or do not include consent.
Secondly, never feel like you have to lower your standards because you are trans. Unless you want to be, you are not just some creepy cis mans fetish. YOU ARE SO MUCH BETTER THAN THAT!!! Never let people tell you that’s all your good for. You are entitled to feel love and respect.
It sadly will be the case from time to time that you will experience “chasers” who fetishise mainly trans women but quite often trans men, and non binary people. Whilst we can tell them till they are blue in the face that we are not interested, they will probably not get the hint. The best thing to do is to use that block button. Try not to engage in them in the slightest.
Thirdly, I cannot stress this enough. If you are trying to interact with someone please PLEASE check spelling before you press that send button. As you can see, what could originally start off with someone asking for a blow job turns out to be deep cleaning the hallways with your tongue.
Whilst I am the first to admit that my spelling is piss poor, and my posts on here can prove how I function barely with writing. However in the kink world, if you spell something wrong you may end up with someone thinking that you enjoy fasting as opposed to fisting. And I would like to continue to eat steak thank you very much.
Now as for ironing out those kinks (pun pun pun) in the internet sheets. I haven’t quite figured that out yet. I am terrible at messaging people to put it politely. I will however get a lot of people message me from time to time. Normally after I’ve posted some pictures on fetlife and normally by straight men. My profile says that I’m trans masculine but as soon as they see vagina and boobs they assume its purely for their entertainment. Guess what? Its not. Its actually for my own.
There is almost a taboo about people taking their own sexuality and claiming it for themselves. Its especially taboo if trans and queer people do this. Once we start acting comfortable in ourselves and our own sexual being its suddenly wrong. Its apparently OK if you post naked pictures providing that cis men can jack off to them. It is not. Honey if you want to get naked, get naked. If you don’t, don’t. Your body is your own to do with, and who ever with. If you think you look sexy, fucking own it.
The internet can be a fucking harsh place, it brings out some of the worst shits ever imaginable. You can experience some of the worst things ever said to you. If you are feeling over whelmed, turn off the screen, even if its just for 30 seconds. Take deep slow breaths.
Failing that you can always start a blog post series and screen cap the fucking shits and dress it up to look pretty. The choice is yours. The choice is always yours.