Why does the concept of the over 60s having sex make me feel physically sick?
OK, probably not my usual topics, but it came up yesterday. After watching two “shock docs” from the incredibly credible channel 5. (If you have seen any documentary programme on this channel, you know I’m joking) . Both of the shows were about the over 60s and their sex lives. The fist one was clearly about men in there 20s/30s fetishising women who were over 60 and the other one was about the older generation getting frisky.
I felt sick, I felt so uncomfortable I was nearly physically ill. The thought of someone over 60 having consented sex made me feel so dirty.
I then started to question why. As someone who is 100% for any relationship, providing consent is there. Why would the older generation make me cringe?
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It wasn’t the person or gender, it wasn’t their sexuality, but it was my own issues. I had in my head that people over 60 would not be having sex in their later years. That was because I had pictured myself not doing it. I would be concerned about what society would think of me, and that sexuality couldn’t be expressed in the later years of life. I know my thought on this has been totally wrong, and I have said a lot of ageist comments about this, and for that I am truly sorry for any hurt I have given out on it. I am trying to educate myself on this and will aim to be a better person.
Tyler Charles Austen 
Are you throwing shade at Madonna?
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Madonna is in her own league, she was scary in the 80s just as much as she is now – shade has been thrown
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I love Madonna. I just think she takes herself too seriously. On a more relevant note, I appreciated your post. It’s not something we like to think about but one day, when we get to Madonna’s age we won’t want shade thrown. Happy Easter. x SB.
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Personally I hope to be still shagging into my 90s. 😛
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Thanks for following my blog. I was horrified by the ignorance and prejudice shown in your opening paragraph above, but you redeemed yourself later! Sometimes the weakness of certain organs that comes about in later life means you have to be a bit more inventive. You can still have fun, and why ever not?
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Honestly when I read back on it months later, I was pretty shocked at myself and wanted to remove this post, but i wanted to keep it in to remind myself that you should just educate yourself better and not be quite so judgemental.
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I have to confess I feel the same way, Tyler, even though I know I shouldn’t. I couldn’t even watch those documentaries on TV, although a part of me is curious to see a different perspective on sex when you’re older… I mean, I don’t imagine a time when I won’t want to have sex, but then I can’t imagine myself being old either 😉
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The thing is, looking back on this I feel so bad writing this. For starters one of my partners are over 50, and I feel really shallow minded but at the same time I don’t feel I would be living to 60+ let alone doing the do then
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My husband and I still enjoy sex, I’m 75 and my husband is 79, we have been married 56 years,
Enjoy living while you can.
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That’s amazing.
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Thank you for the follow!
People have been having great sex and not so great sex into their advanced years well, for years! However there’s a bunch of people who need to see that their contemporaries are doing something before giving themselves permission to “do it”! So though younger people may find the documentaries to be a turnoff, many will find them liberating!
It’s been whispered about, mostly in a negative sense, making many people feel there’s something “dirty” or depraved about it, instead of a normal part of life! If you’re willing AND able, why not?
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Thank you, I fully agree with you
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I think you nailed it with this sentence: That was because I had pictured myself not doing it.
I know that’s my problem when I think of older people having sex. I always picture my own body and feel revolted when I picture it all wrinkly and saggy and discolored. But I also know that the changes I’ve seen in my body so far haven’t bothered me anywhere near as much as I thought they would 15 years ago. So I’m hopeful!
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Aw, the young! Wish I could turn back the clock some days, but then I’d have to learn those hard lessons all over again. Your post made me smile. I didn’t find it at all offensive. You’re young. When I was young I couldn’t think about my parents having sex either. Young people, unless they’re in the medical field just can’t reconcile older people doing the things they are doing. But, sex has been around since the beginning of time and I can assure you the older generation knows and sometimes does it all. My husband and I are in our sixties and still going. We may not do the gymnastics we once did, but after being married so long – you don’t need gymnastic sex. What we and most older people have is a very satisfying sex. Yeah, our bodies change and aging can suck, but the nice thing about growing older – we don’t give a rat’s ass! We’re not competing with younger women, we don’t have to. We’re older, wiser, and know the importance of having someone by our side that thinks we’re as beautiful as when we met.
Sorry, to go on so long in my reply, but I wanted you to know – we are still alive and enjoying life.
Thank you so much for stopping by the Cow Pasture. I’m so glad you stayed. Welcome to the fence jumpers. I look forward to hearing more from you in the future.
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Thank you. As I have said previously about this post, a few months after i wrote it, was that I regret doing this, but I not erasing my fuck ups like they never happened. I’m dating someone who is much older then I am (sorry hunny) and I realised how wrong I was.
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