As I’m writing this, I’m sitting my pink and black lounge pants, a bunny jumper and knitting
When I came out a in 2012, the idea had always occurred to me that I would never be the “alpha” male that is expected in people in the FTM community. I never wanted to give up baking cakes, painting, and liking pink.
There is an expectation that once we come out, we are to become butch, car mechanics, entirely sexist and conform to the “bro” culture. THIS IS NOT THE CASE FOR A MAJORITY OF TRANS MASCULINE PEOPLE OUT THERE.
However the notion that we can like things that associates with femininity, will be laughed at. Several trans guys (including myself) have had discussions with trans folk, and have been told that we were quite clearly girls, but just wanting to be lesbian’s. I personally have been told that I shouldn’t even be transitioning because I like hello kitty items. I was told this by other trans folk.
Now I must point out that outside of my own home, I will be the guy wearing jeans and a shirt. However I will not butch myself up. I will not try to be “alpha” because I am far from that. I’m as camp as a row of tents. I have been judged and misgendered a lot because of this.
The questions that go through my head are:
“Why are only cisgenderd homosexual men, the only men allowed to show any form of feminine qualities, without being called ” women” ?”
“Why can it not be acceptable to not conform to gender binaries in the 21st century?”
“Is being non-binary really a new idea?”
Now I’m not saying that everyone should be “non-binary”, far from it. I believe that everyone should be able to present themselves as any part on the spectrum. All I want is that non-binary members of society are accepted more in the trans community.