So here I am 4 days post op surgery. I finally got the shits removed from my chest.
The surgery itself was a success. There was no complications going under or even during recovery. So much so, I was able to leave 5 hours after I had been put under. I am honestly so happy about everything. Well kind of… The fucking hospital was fucking disgusting and treated Kai and myself like shit because I’m trans. They also put my notes down as miss, even though they were corrected many MANY times. It was that bad that my surgeon was grossed out by the teams behaviour and a serious complaint will be put in.
However, my tits are finally gone, the weight has vanished off my chest and I feel so much better already. I can’t wait till I’m fully recovered. My nipple tattoos should be put on in a couple of months which is exciting too.
Overall I’m just so happy about it all.
I would like to say sorry for not posting on here for a while. I have been quite ill due to my tablets not working and my brain just hasn’t been able to work.
I have my pre op for top surgery on the 1st and my surgery date is set for Friday 10th Feb. I’m not going to lie, I’m fucking nervous as hell and it’s been another reason why I haven’t wanted to post much recently.
Hopefully I will get better soon and things will return to normal.
Today I’ve been asked to describe zebra’s without using black or white, so here it goes.
Zebra’s are smaller stripy horses found in zoos, safaris or wildlife areas.
Or as I wanted to call it originally “Toys for trans people”.
We are often seen as sexless beings (unless its porn catered to the fetish market), often discussing toys and sex can seem a bit daunting and you might not know where you want to go, or who to talk to about it. You might want to try different things and you don’t know where to start.
Firstly you should do your own research. Explore your own body, find out what sort of touch and sensation pleases you and go from there.
Secondly, if you have a partner with toys, maybe ask to experiment with them. You don’t have to play with toys that you have to penetrate yourself with them. There are a wide variery of sleeves, vibrators, whips, outfits, ect that you can try and experiment with.
Thirdly, browse websites for toys or go to your local sex shop store. For a good website, I highly recommend lovehoney.com as they have a 12 month return policy if you are unsatisfied with the product.
Fourthly, enjoy your toys. And if you don’t like them, try something else. It’s perfectly fine to not like some toys, and love other toys.
Finally, remember lube. Lube is a great friend and makes everything so much better.
So your LGBTQ and you want to develop a social life, but *gasp* you don’t like clubbing or pounding 8 grams of Mkat up your nose on a week night. So what the fuck do you do.
Luckily in this day and age going clubbing isn’t the be all and end all for a *cough* nearly 30 year old who cannot stand the sticky floor and shitty music. But what do you do instead?
There is an app out there called Meetme which is always a great start. They advertise meet up spaces for people regardless what you are into. For instance I go to a LGBT geeks meet up once a month at a coffee/bar place and get to meet up with new people like that.
You can do a shout out to do stuff with friends on Facebook. Like cinema trips or days out. You can make your own little queer events by looking for cheep or free venues, and have meet ups there.
Look round in your local areas for fun things to do. There are often craft or activities days going round in cities and towns.
Join groups that include your favourite hobbies on Facebook. You could find new friends on there and maybe find ways for you to hang out.
There is of course YouTube tutorials if you like making things, and many different types of stores where you can find stuff you want to build.
Basically, there is a whole world outside besides clubbing and drinking for queers, you should go out there and find places that make you happy.
I’ve had a few mentors in my life, but a couple of them really stand out. Rad primarily.
She taught me to be professional and to stand up against peoples bullshit at the same time. She would tell me when I would fuck up and she was the one who discovered I was dyslexic after I handed over some of my course work to her.
Without her drive and passion, I wouldn’t have got far in life and I wouldn’t have learned that I am actually a human being who can get shit done.
Today I have been told to talk about what it’s like to sit by the ocean.
If you didn’t know this, I live on a coastal city, so I am surrounded by the sea. It’s very nice to sit on the beach on a nice day and listen to the waves and the birds flying over head. It can also get really busy during the summer time as its a huge tourist attraction. But on the plus side, you can catch a great sun tan.
It’s also great to sit and eat fish by the seaside. I don’t know why, but it always seems to taste so much better.